Dealing with Controlling Relationships
Controlling relationships can leave the one being controlled stifled which of course is not a healthy position to be in.
If you have found yourself in such a relationship, you have two options.
You can try to work with your present partner to change the relationship or you can leave.
Let The Problem Be None
Discuss the problem with your partner. One of the first steps to take is to sit down and tell your partner that you are not happy with the relationship as it stands.
Tell them how controlling they are and how you feel about it.
Your partner may not realize that they are controlling you this way.
Simply talking about the situation can sometime end the controlling or can be the beginning stages of a solution, but you have to take the first step.
Parting Ways May Be The Only Solution
If you cannot get through to your partner, then there may be no other choice but to admit the relationship is not going to work and part ways. However, this may be easier said than done, especially if the relationship has gone on for some time.
Often the controller in the relationship will of course do what they have been so good at doing and control you into staying with them. They may promise they will change to stop you leaving and in some cases you may be threatened.
In this case, you may need outside help to get out of your relationship if there is a threat to your safety. And if it's going there, well I at least suggest some distance away.
While it may be hard for you to consider just up and leaving, for instance you may wonder if you will ever find love if you leave. You have to realize that being controlled is not love and you deserve much better.
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