Personality and Physical Attraction: Having Your Cake and Eating it Too
My last relationship was with a woman I met at work. I was attracted to her strong personality, humor and wit. She was a lot of fun to be around and a great change from the last few people I have dated.
Unfortunately, we lacked a certain physical connection that later caused the relationship to crumble. We had been dating for six months when it finally came to a screeching halt. I told her that I wasn't attracted to her physically, that I wanted to be friends and that I enjoyed our time together.
I was surprised by her response and by my realizing how important it is to be physically and mentally attracted to someone. She responded kindly, saying that although she was hurt, she understood where I was coming from and respected my decision to end the relationship as we knew it.
Today we are great friends. However, it is likely the case that we remained good friends because of our communication skills up to that point. Kindness and love make up for a whole lot, but when it comes to romantic relationships it's important to have real, physical attraction somewhere in the mix as well, otherwise it's hard to sustain.