Can I Be Friends With My Ex?
(San Diego. CA)
My ex and I broke up about six months ago, but we have maintained a sort of friendship. I must say that I still enjoy his company, as he is also my best friend. There is just one little problem. I am still in love with him, and he just doesn't feel the same way about me. He obviously still likes me or else he would not be coming around, but I can see the romantic type of love that I want from him is gone from his side.
Again I really value his friendship, but am I just causing myself more pain by trying to remain friends with him, knowing in my heart that I want more? Do you think that remaining in this type of "friendly" relationship will keep me from finding the type of love that I really want and need? Is it a lost cause?
Well Lisa, there's reasons for everything and almost everything happens for a reason. Do you know what caused the spiral down on his part? Maybe there is something that you can rekindle. What mistakes did you make? Did you go over all of this in your head? Did you take time to think about it? Remember, I'm sure there are things going on in head as well, so don't think for a minute that you're by yourself with this.
Then sometimes there's a little too late to blow air back into the balloon because the balloon has already popped. Sometimes unfortunately, there isn't anything anyone can do to change the way a person feels. Time heals all wounds. You just may have to take that hit on the chin and learn from the experience.
I don't even like the answer to this question because I know it's a big nut to swallow sometimes, but I'm only trying to keep it real with ya.
I hope I've answered your question and given you a little something to go on. Good luck and take care.