Little Boys

by Nima
(Ponchatoula)

Visitors Story:

I'm in a relationship with a 23 year old and we have a one year old child together and I'm pregnant with his second one.

When I got pregnant with the second one he quit his job and started doing drugs.

He doesn't come to see my first child or check on the one I'm pregnant with.

A couple of days ago, I told him I was going to put him on child support.

Now he's pissed. He calls me cursing everyday and comes over at 11 or 12 at night asking to see his baby. I'm so tired. What should I do?

Answer:
First and foremost, concentrate on taking care of yourself and your children. Do you have a plan?

Set some boundaries on the times he can visit the children. If 11 or 12midnight isn't good, then tell him so and stick to it.

Try to sit down and discuss what you're not happy with and what needs to change.

Try to get him to understand how important parenting can be you're both in this relationship together.

The children are yours both and it's not the children fault.

Try to get him to understand that you both have to work together. Your children future depends on it. Communication is key.

I hope I've given you something to start with. Good luck and take care. Come back and let me know what happened.


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