by Angela
(Canada)
Visitors Question:
I've liked this one guy I met at the Bible college I attend, for a while. He is a committed Christian.
We are friends and since it's the summer and we don't live in the province, we have texted a lot.
A couple of months ago, we were talking about relationships over text message and he told me he wasn't ready for one yet since his breakup which would now be 7 months ago but at this time it would have been 5 months prior.
I haven't told him that I like him and I think in some ways I am getting too emotionally attached to him because we do talk about somewhat deep topics and I like him a lot.
I want to view him as just a friend or at least until the time he likes me if that ever happens.
I was wondering if it is possible for me to just view him as a friend and if this is possible, how would I go about viewing him as just a friend?
Also should I do this or should I just let it play out? I want to honor God and don't really know what to do in this situation.
Answer:
Well if you guys talk a lot, he just may know that you like him a little.
Now as far as it being possible to just be friends with this person, that would be entirely up to you.
You'll have to put your feelings in the proper place. My suggestion is to tell him where you're at feelings wise and see if he's interested in you in that way.
If it's yes then you guys move on from there. If it's no, then you have to know choice but to be friends.
NOW, if you see you can't just be friends with this person then I suggest that you stay away in some ways.
If I wanted someone that didn't want me in the same way, I'd try to stay away from that person because you may always want to start something when you're in their presence.
I'm not saying you cant' be friends but I'd rather spend quality time speaking/being with someone that's on the same page as I.
I hope I've given you something to go on. Good luck and all the best to you.