courting etiquette

Visitors Question:


This female is interested in me, but I am hesitant to move the relationship along because we have both been hurt pretty badly before.

She also is a huge flirt, and has admitted to cheating before in a lot of her relationships.

We had our first argument the other day, and it seems like we got some stuff ironed out, but I haven't heard from her all day today and only got to talk to her to wish her a Happy Easter or else I probably wouldn't have heard from her yesterday, either.

The last I heard is that she said stuff would change and she would work on some stuff between us...and to just watch and believe her.

Should I just let her get back to me, or should i contact her. I am just a little confused if she may be more upset than I initialIy suspected and just needs her space, especially since the Easter holiday.

I am truly bisexual and she is a 'stone butch'.....just an fyi...not sure if there is some protocol for courting that I need to be aware of.

I just don't want to mess stuff up and not contact her because we usually talk every day...

I am not sure what to do.

My gut is telling me that I may have bruised her ego a bit, and to let her contact me when she gets over what was said.

Answer:

Well for starters, I'm not too comfy about someone that has cheated. Why did they cheat? What was the explanation for it?

I would like to add that Clay is not all that comfy with chasing people around either.

If there is something on my mind that I'd like to talk about, then I'd get them to sit down and talk about it.

Be sure to tell them what you want and what you don't want. Get all that out immediately. Listen to how they answer.

If the answer is not enough for you then you let them know that, and be sure to tell them how you feel about the answer and why.

If there is any hesitation on their part about what you want, then you have decisions to make, like, is this person worth my time? etc.

Remember, you don't have time to waste and let them know that in some ways.

In some way get them to realize that if we're not on the same page then lets go our seperate ways and wish each other the best.

There is a secret remedy in there for you and I hope you find it, lol.

Your life is precious and very important to you. I hope I've given you something to go on. Good luck and all the best to you.



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